Yikes! If I were to witness my partner cheating emotionally in the ways you describe, I'm bailing. Those behaviors would indicate to me that my partner had already bailed, but just lacks the conviction to break off for reasons of convenience. If my partner is more comfortable confiding in someone else and compares me unfavorably to their "someone else", I'm gone. They made their choice and I'm not chasing or trying to win them back. (And likely why I'm so good at being single!)
Thanks for sharing!
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